Short answer: for most people a small rechargeable bullet or a compact clitoral massager is the best place to start. They are cheap, discreet, easy to use and do not require any guesswork about size or shape.
Decide what you want it to do
- External / clitoral: bullets, wands and sonic massagers. Most women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation, so this is the most reliable place to begin.
- Internal / G-spot: curved vibrators with a bulbous tip. Better once you know what you like.
- Both at once: rabbit vibrators have a shaft and a clitoral arm; pick a beginner-friendly size.
- With a partner: vibrating rings and remote-controlled toys are designed to be shared.
What to look for
- Body-safe silicone. Non-porous and easy to clean. Avoid unbranded jelly toys, which can be porous.
- USB rechargeable. No batteries to buy, and no loose battery compartment to leak.
- Waterproof. Easier to clean and usable in the bath. Look for a stated rating (IPX6 or "waterproof").
- Quiet motor. Not a spec you can read, but customer reviews will tell you.
- A travel lock so it does not switch on in a bag.
Our picks to start with
Small, simple and inexpensive
Compact clitoral massagers
Beginner-friendly rabbits
Using it
- Wash it before and after, with warm water and mild soap.
- Use a water-based lubricant if it is going inside or if you feel any friction.
- Start on the lowest setting; you can always go up.
- There is no right way. Experiment over a few sessions before deciding it is not for you.
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Frequently asked questions
What is the best first vibrator?
A small rechargeable bullet or a compact clitoral massager is the most forgiving: inexpensive, discreet, and simple to use.
Are expensive vibrators better?
Often in motor quality, materials and noise, but not always for you. A £30 bullet that you enjoy beats a £200 toy that does not suit you.
Do I need lubricant?
Not for external use, but yes for anything internal, and it never hurts. Use water-based with silicone toys.
How do I clean a vibrator?
Warm water and mild unscented soap or a toy cleaner. Dry it fully. Waterproof toys can be rinsed under the tap.
Is it normal to feel nothing the first time?
Yes. Sensation takes practice and relaxation. Try different settings and positions before judging it.