Short answer: start with a water-based lubricant. It is safe with condoms and every type of toy, and it washes off. Move to silicone or a hybrid if you want something that lasts longer or works in water.
The three types compared
Water-based
The all-rounder. Safe with latex and non-latex condoms and with silicone toys; washes off easily and does not stain. It can dry out or absorb into the skin, so reapply. Look for glycerin-free and paraben-free formulas if you are sensitive.
Silicone
Slicker and longer lasting; works in the bath or shower. Do not use it with silicone toys, as it can degrade the surface. May stain fabrics. Needs soap and water to remove.
Hybrid
A mix of water and silicone: longer-lasting than water-based, easier to clean than pure silicone. Avoid with silicone toys.
Which one for which situation?
- Using silicone toys: water-based only.
- Condoms: water-based or silicone. Never oil-based with latex.
- Vaginal dryness (for example around the menopause): a pH-balanced water-based or hybrid, and a vaginal moisturiser for daily use. See menopause and sex.
- Anal play: a thick gel such as Sliquid Sassy or Lubido Anal.
- Shower or bath: silicone.
- Massage: a hybrid or silicone-based.
Oil-based products (baby oil, coconut oil, Vaseline) can damage latex condoms and are not advised internally. Skip them unless you are using non-latex condoms and know what you are doing.
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Frequently asked questions
Which lubricant is best with condoms?
Water-based or silicone. Avoid oil-based products with latex condoms, as they weaken the latex.
Can I use silicone lubricant with a silicone toy?
No. It can break down the toy's surface. Use water-based lubricant with silicone toys.
What is a hybrid lubricant?
A blend of water and silicone that lasts longer than water-based alone but is easier to wash off than silicone alone.
Is glycerin bad in lubricant?
Glycerin can irritate some people and may contribute to yeast infections in those who are prone to them. Glycerin-free formulas are an easy choice if you are sensitive.
How much lubricant should I use?
More than you think. Start with a generous amount and reapply when it starts to feel dry.